In my last blog, I mentioned the value to be found in taking time to close off the year before proceeding to 2019. The response from a long-time friend was to please give some direction as to how to do this process, so I thought I would devote this last blog for 2018 to outlining the exercise.
I base this on a webinar I did with Donna McCallum, who calls herself the ‘Fairy Godmother’ , and I would like to take this opportunity to acknowledge her input. I usually do this kind of process in a Journal or a notebook kept for reflection, so I can refer back to it later.
Reflections from 2018:
- Take each month, starting with January , and write them as a headings. Under each heading write anything you can remember that happened in the month, relating to yourself. Don’t stop to edit, simply write what stands out for you. Move on down the page to November (you can complete December as it unfolds!) Examples can be: jobs done, interaction with friends, friends who moved on, achievements, shifts in your thinking, crises, challenges etc.
- Now look back on what you have written and write down your feelings and your general impressions of the year as a whole. e. extract the highlights of the list you made in 1, as well as your general impressions of the year. Begin with “When I look back on the year as a whole I feel/realise/understand…”
- Reflecting on 1, as well as drawing on your memory, extract the lessons learned for yourself during 2018.
- List what you perceive as ‘negative’ events. e. the events that you perceive to have been negative, though they may not be seen as that by others. (they were either negative as you experienced them, or were negative in outcome as far as you were concerned)
- What good came out of these ’negative’ events
- Lastly, list your 10 Successes for 2018
I do hope that taking some time to do this exercise will be of value for you in terms of how you perceive 2018 on looking back. For many of us, it has been a turbulent year, which makes it even more essential to reflect on the lessons learned. If you would like to take it one step further, you can pool all this information to draw up your goal for 2019. If you would like some help in extracting the lessons, drop me a line and we can set up a time to chat.
As I write this blog, I have yet to process 2018 for myself. For me it has definitely been a year of learning, but they say life’s biggest lessons are learned in adverse times! I set myself a goal of writing a fortnightly blog as we started 2018. I feel elated that I have achieved it, with, I think, two slips around Easter.
If you have any experiences that you feel would be pertinent to mention in my blogs next year, or anything pertaining to retirement/aging which you would like me to research and write about, please drop me a line.
All that remains is for me to wish you well over the Festive Season. May you have a peaceful holiday and come back to face the new year feeling relaxed, refreshed and excited for what it holds.